Day fourteen finds me contemplating the balance between self-care and selflessness. As we get deeper into the heart of Ramadan, I'm reminded that spiritual growth requires tending to my own needs while also extending a helping hand to others.

Just as I'm breaking my fast today with some sweet Sukkary dates, I paused and allowed the dates to melt in my mouth, reminding me of the sweetness of faith and the joy of giving. As I quickly wrapped up, responding to a text and continuing to serve food, it was at this moment in mere seconds that a thought flashed across my mind: to serve others fully, I must first tend to my well-being. I was a bit cold today while handing out food. I usually joke with folks and try my best to be as welcoming as possible, but I couldn't bring myself to do that today. I was standoffish and very curt as I communicated with people.

As I stood there like a robot pointing at the food choices, I realized that neglecting my needs would ultimately hinder my ability to be there for others. Just as a lamp cannot illuminate a room without fuel, I cannot radiate light and compassion without first replenishing my spirit with care, attention, and connection to the Divine.

I continued serving for Iftar, but this realization led me to a profound understanding: true selflessness stems from a place of self-care. I am better equipped to serve others with genuine empathy and compassion when prioritizing my well-being.

Honestly, beyond the masjid and in my life in general, I tend to always serve others ahead of my own needs, most times to my detriment. And the worst of it is that those I do that for don't even realize the toll it takes on me. Sometimes, I ask myself if they care because, like clockwork, they're always vocal about their needs, not what I need. This makes me sad.

Today, I learned that self-care and selflessness are not mutually exclusive but two sides of the same coin. By nurturing myself, I am nurturing my capacity to nurture others.

As I move forward in this Ramadan, I will strive to find a harmonious balance between tending to my needs and extending myself to others because I'm learning that others will never ask me to stop showing up for them. I need to recognize this for myself and take action. May this journey of self-discovery lead me to a deeper understanding of compassion, service, and the interconnectedness of all beings. May this Ramadan remind us that self-care is not a selfish act but a foundation for genuine selflessness.